The 40’s Somethings Starter Kit

For years, my time belonged to a schedule somebody else needed — school, work, games, dinners, all of it. I was Mom first, for everything and everybody, and honestly, I didn’t leave much room for Bree.

Then my son got old enough to not need me for everything. Now some of my days look different, and honestly, that quiet can feel strange at first. Nobody warns you about the quiet hours — or the question that shows up in them: who am I now?

Here’s how I knew something had shifted: when somebody asked me what I liked — not what my son liked, not what was easiest for everybody — I had to think about it way too long. We change in our 40s. Our taste, our music, our food, our fun — it might not be what it was at 25, and that’s okay.

My body has carried a lot — a child, long workdays, stress, joy, all of it — and I’m learning to speak to it with a little more kindness. I’m still learning how to make room for Bree again: how to rest without guilt, how to want things just for me, how to believe it isn’t too late.

Motherhood is part of my story — but a woman is always a woman. I’m not starting over from nothing. I’m starting from everything I’ve lived, learned, survived, and loved through — and that’s not nothing. That’s wisdom.

If any of that sounds like you, you’re in the right place. That’s exactly why I made this kit.

— Bree